External happiness fades, but inner happiness lasts a lifetime.
This is a powerful statement as only you can make the decision to do something about where you are now and how you are feeling at any given time. When you genuinely love yourself and love life, it causes amazing effects in your life and in the lives of those around you.
The following 10 suggestions are some that are the most common to try out when life is a bit hard to handle:
- Take 10 deep breaths each time not focusing on any particular object or thought — just the breath.
- Put on your favourite song and listen to it and if you love it so much sing along!
- Pamper yourself — this could be doing your nails, applying a face mask or styling your hair a different way.
- Go outside for a walk or if it is raining go for a drive to get fresh air and view different surroundings.
- Visit a friend, this can be for a coffee or for lunch, or a movie.
- Carry out a random act of kindness — saying hello to a stranger or giving a bottle of water to a homeless person.
- Take pictures of things that interest you and make an album titled ‘beautiful things’ or anything you want.
- Start, continue or finish off a book.
- Cook something you haven’t cooked before or even your favourite dish and share it if you like to.
- Compliment yourself and list all your strengths and good qualities.
These actions don’t need to be carried out in any particular order and even doing 1 or 2 once a week or every day will allow you to evaluate yourself. Self-reflection is important, as too often we all get swept along in the hustle and bustle of life. Trying these won’t solve a specific problem that you may be experiencing, it will, however, allow you to take time out for yourself. The result then is that by clearing your mind you can make rational decisions based on what is troubling you.
By expanding your mind you are expanding your way of thinking, you are supporting your psychological, physical and spiritual growth. Regularly indulging in small pleasures, getting absorbed in challenging activities, setting and meeting goals and maintaining close social ties are all actions that increase life satisfaction. The more love you show yourself, the more love you are able to attract and share. Relationships can be improved. Self-care doesn’t need to be selfish, but rather the opposite. The better care you take for yourself, the better you can care for everyone else in your life.